Dating after spinal cord injury
Meeting Partners It can be tough to meet new people under the best of circumstances.With a disability, you might be concerned about people’s reactions. But when I sensed the relationship moving toward intimacy, I always ended it. It seemed less painful for me to break off the relationship than to endure such rejection. Early in the relationship he had demonstrated a sincere gesture. When my date showed me to the first-floor bathroom, I noticed what looked like “unfinished construction”. But it was a stretch to believe that there was a man that would love me (and my wheelchair). All anyone wants whether they are injured or not, is to be accepted and loved for the person that they are. I could easily hide uncomfortable areas like incontinence, loss of sensation, and the enormous time it took me to get dressed. My insecurities began to show their ugly face and I was convinced he would run if I shared EVERYTHING! At some point in my visit, I asked where the bathroom was located (they had a two level house; oh how I hoped there was a bathroom on the main level).Facing Disability is shedding a light on the “hush-hush” topic of sex after spinal cord injury at the American Spinal Cord Injury Professionals (ASCIP) 2014 Conference in Saint Louis, August 31 through September 3.Facing Disability President, Thea Flaum and Sara Klaas, Director of Business Development at Shriners Hospitals for Children Chicago, will be giving a presentation on the continuing need for information on and the affects of sexuality after spinal cord injury based on the extensive use of sex-related material.You might wonder how your injury will affect your romantic and sexual life, especially if you’re looking for a partner.When should you tell someone about your disability? What should you do when it’s time for your first sexual encounter? Quite the opposite: you might find that an exciting relationship is right around the corner. In this post, we’ll look at some concerns people with spinal cord injury have about dating and sex.
If you have a new spinal cord injury (SCI), you know you have a lot of adjustments to make.The videos relating personal experiences that were deemed “most helpful” were those dealing with “Relationships after SCI” (45%) and “Social Life and Sex” (32%).We believe Facing is a helpful sex resource for those with SCI, their family and friends, as well as healthcare providers on rehabilitation teams.Body Image It’s normal to feel anxious about your body.There are all sorts of changes to get used to – visual ones like scars and internal ones like bowel or bladder issues.
Can I find love, true love after spinal cord injury? Don’t be shameful of any area in your life regarding your disability. That’s a natural part of the process in the search for a soul mate. This is not an act, arrogance or entitlement, but that if you recognize you have value, others are more likely to treat you that way.